The fastest way to get me into a raging fury is to tell me to “calm down“.
When did it become a problem to feel emotion? Really feel it.
Anger is unpleasant, its not an emotion that anyone likes. Its not fun for the person feeling angry, and it sucks to come into contact with someone who is angry. I do not consider myself to be an angry person. Generally speaking I am pretty easy going and able to reign in this emotion. That said, sometimes when I’m mildly irritated it is perceived as anger. For those readers out there who have seen me truly angry that must seem comical. It is a sound consensus that I get scary when I’m mad. Its been described to me as “going velociraptor”. Anger sucks, for me it comes on so quickly like hitting a wall, and it leaves just as fast. That is why is it so incredibly frustrating being told to calm down.
Sadness is awful. No one really wants to feel sad. So why is it that it is okay to tell someone to calm down when they are in distress? Is it not clear that they would if they could? Something is making them sad and they are allowed to feel that way, even if the perpetrator of the accursed phrase doesn’t understand why their sad.
Happiness is fantastic! Everyone wants to be happy. But beware, apparently its not okay to be too happy, someone might tell you to calm down. I honestly do not get why people feel the need to destroy someone’s joy like that. Excitement is a wonderful thing, sharing happiness is a wonderful thing! Why would anyone want to stifle another’s happiness?
Why would anyone want to stifle another’s emotions at all? I get that if someone is emotional, hanging around someone who is feeling an opposite emotion is probably not a good mix. Ordering people to change their emotions will not help to change them, unless the intent was to upset them more. Maybe I’m the only one who feels this way about being told to calm down, but I suspect I am not alone.
For one thing, don’t tell me what to do.
For another, I have my reasons for feeling the way I feel.
…even if I don’t have a good reason, my emotions are mine, if you want to influence them do it positively.
Emotions are not something to be ashamed of. Emotion makes us human. Connects us to one another. I don’t understand the social taboo with visibly feeling emotion. Feeling is what makes life worth living, even if it hurts sometimes.
“Okay yeah sure ill just do that. Thanks that never occurred to me”